Family Update Vol. 2013-14


Well, this week was supposed to be “normal”, but it wasn’t. Not really. Jared’s foot flare up didn’t help much. Actually that probably threw most of the week out of whack. But I think if i really think about it, we don’t have a new “normal” yet. So it’s something that’s going to be learned over the next few weeks or months or whenever, which is fine, but sometimes the unknown is more scarey than the known.


Not much happened in terms of school. I think I will definitely try to get that back going again next week. It adds at least a little bit more structure to our morning. We did make it to spend a morning with some cousins this week, which was a nice get out of the house morning. But for the most part we’ve been home-bound.

We’ve made a little progress on our basement redo (see this 7QT take# 3 for “The List”). I think I’ll make a little post once we have more of it done.

We had a birthday party for my brother on Tuesday evening. And another party today for John and Katherine. Nothing fancy, but it was nice. We played and played and tried to round up people that kept leaving for whatever reason just so we could “sing and have cake”. Nothing like telling a handful of three-year-olds that they have to wait “just a little longer” for some cake. Thanks Mimi for taking the pictures on my phone!!!!

Nothing like Grandma to keep them entertained while waiting! (Push ups anyone?)
Nothing like Grandma to keep them entertained while waiting! (Push ups anyone?)

Karl – I’ve heard more words from him lately. He will consistently say “night-night” when I say it’s time to go to bed. He’ll say “apple”. He say “Yell-ah” (for the neighbor girl… and also for his cousin Ella). He’ll be “carrying on a conversation” with you and suddenly say “Hi!”. One of his current favorites with me is to rub my cheek and say “nice” (really slowly – showing me that he can be nice to me).

He’s been loving having all the parties going on. He really seems to enjoy commotion. Definitely not an introvert like his mama. Thanks to everyone who has included a gift or card for him in all the party-events 🙂


Johnny – He received a bike for his birthday, which was Monday. If you didn’t catch his birth story you can read it here. It didn’t have training wheels on it, so he begged for several days for someone to put them on (Jared finally felt well enough to do it on Wednesday). He’s loving riding it (see first picture of the post)… even though the tires could use a little air. I really need to start writing down some of the stuff he says, because he can be hilarious. He spent a good 45 minutes in bed with Jared the other night talking. Just talking. Whatever random thought happened to pop into his head. Things like:

Daddy?… {During a conversation about trucks}
Daddy? you have green eyes?

Just random. But so hilarious.

He has LOVED being 3. He’s very particular about counting it out on his fingers. He’ll also do things like hold up both hands and say “look! Here’s two 3’s” (which almost works, since he usually is holding up all five fingers!) He also loves green, trains, and dump trucks!


Katherine – I think she already thinks she is four, but that won’t officially happen until this coming Monday. She has been adjusting to having Jared back. I don’t know if she’s having a hard time, but I think she might be the most unsure of the situation. Not in that she’s afraid, but that she is old enough to know that SOMETHING happened that was out of the ordinary because he was gone for two weeks, and now that he’s back she’s confused? I don’t know. She’s definitely been acting out more, but maybe that’s just being almost-four.

Loving chocolate cake with chocolate frosting! (That’s my girl). She also loves her dolls, stuff animals, playing doctor/library/going to the store, cleaning…


ReadingCall the Midwife:Farewell to the East End by Jennifer Worth.

Coming up in the Liturgical Year

Michaelmas is tomorrow.

St. Jerome on the 30th

St Therese of Lisieux on 1 October

Guardian Angels on 2 October

St Francis of Assisi on 4 October

Testing 1,2,3…. 9,10,11….36,37,38…


Ok, So maybe not THAT many tests this week. But boy, it sure felt like there were a lot of them.

The Setting:

Jared came home last Thursday (YAY!). So I thought, good, now we can get back to being a family. And I’ll say, Thursday we did spend all together hanging out and just being together. It was great. Friday morning he woke up with a sore ankle. He thought he had twisted it during the night sometime (not unheard of for him, I don’t know how he manages it, but he always seems to be twisting something or other). Anyways, he went to work and came home around noon, normal for Friday. We did some more family hanging out, but his ankle was just getting more and more swollen and sore. Repeat Saturday. Repeat Sunday. Monday, he said he wasn’t going into work except to grab a few things, then he was going to the ER because it wasn’t getting any better, in fact it was getting worse. I took him, dropped him off (I just can’t manage to stay at the ER with three kids for an indefinite amount of time, plus it’s only five minutes away so I can be back to pick him up relatively quickly). Anyhoos… long story short the doctor THINKS he has cellulitis in his left foot. Ironically, the doctor also hypothesizes that the infection has probably been there for a while now (think in terms of years), but has been kept “under control” by the drinking… and now that Jared’s not drinking, the infection has really taken over. So. It being Saturday now, a week and two days later, things have gotten a little better with the foot, but pretty much until yesterday (Friday) Jared didn’t do anything (which is fine, that’s what he was supposed to do).


Moving on to the testing…

If there’s one thing I managed to learn, or realize, it’s that I have a lot of learning how to live with “sober Jared”. There isn’t anything wrong with that, but it is hard. I’ve basically had a crash relearn Jared course going for the last 216 hours. And it’s been pretty continuous, since he hasn’t been at work. We just go from one extreme to another I guess.

Part of me isn’t surprised that we are already being tested. I knew that our marriage was something that was going to have to get some work pretty soon after he came home, but I wasn’t expecting to be pushed up against a brick wall right away. I don’t do well when I’m backed against a wall (I already knew that though).

Some other things I managed to realize were that I tend to react to “perceived actions” or to “how will so-and-so react lines of thought”… Basically, I react to something that isn’t necessarily real. Does that make sense? If I had thought about that before I probably would have realized that I do that, but I hadn’t thought about it before a couple days ago, and it’s been enough to make me TRY to at the very least react to the REAL situation and not some imagined situation.

Anyways, all combined, not a fun week. Today and yesterday have been LOTS better.

Another thing I “learned”: to not stop praying. This should be something that I have learned by now, but for whatever reason when I’m in the middle of falling apart and being extremely frustrated I tend to get so discouraged that I feel I can’t focus to pray. However, two times this week I pushed through and after each of those times I was able to get a handle on things…. so…. maybe I’ll be able to keep this lesson for longer than I have in the past.

Not sure if this post really makes that much sense, but I really felt like I needed to share it.

(A quote my cousin shared with me)

Whenever you are fed up with life, start writing: ink is a great cure of all human ills

C.S. Lewis

And another one that has been popping into my head for the last few days:

Tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet

Anne of Green Gables