Answer Me This {summer #3?}

 

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This week’s answer me this is brought to you by #insteadofEdel. {Edel for those that aren’t in the know is a Catholic women’s conference started originally for bloggers, but I don’t think they’re too strict ;)…. link to their info site} This year it was in Charleston, SC and we were *this* close that I very seriously considered going, but….. just didn’t work out. Maybe next year it’ll be even closer and it will happen? New England? Yes Edel planners? Or even New York or somewhere Mid-Atlantic and I could probably swing it…..

Anyways…. instead of that, we’re hanging out in Georgia with family 🙂

If I could switch gears for one minute though and ask prayers for some very sweet friends who are having a memorial service this morning, for their baby boy, Desmond, who was born into heaven on Jul 3. I grew up with Ethan (the dad) and while I don’t know Nicole (mom) as well, it’s still weighed very heavy on my heart. If it’s hit me this hard, I can’t imagine what it is for them. Prayers for them would be so greatly appreciated.

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1. At what temperature do you keep the thermostat set? Summer, winter, day, night?

We have only heat in our house (no AC, except for a window unit in our room, which I’ll get to…) In the winter it’s kept no higher than 66 (gas is expensive!) during the day and it’s 62 at night (can’t go too cold with the babies). In my experience 66 is on the chillier side and I would LOVE to have it set higher (like in the 70s) but, it just eats up too much gas… I mean we already can have gas bills in the winter upwards of $400. So multiply that by four or five months of winter-like temps and… yeah, just won’t happen over here.

Summer: in our room we have an AC because Jared can’t stand being hot and sweaty, especially after being outside working, which he does on occasion. That’s just an old window unit kept on “HIGH COOL”, no fancy thermostat for that 😉 I usually run cold so I’m always under a comforter.

2. What is your favorite frozen beverage?

I usually don’t drink frozen beverages. See above statement about me always running cold. Very, very occasionally I will get a coffee frap drink at Starbucks or something, but I hardly ever do that because I’m not really a Starbucks addict, only when someone I’m with insists on going…

And grown up drinks: I don’t go for them either. That’s more because I don’t really drink (anything: frozen or not) though.

3. Where do you keep your keys?

Well, we have these nice little pegs right near the back door which are supposed to be used for the keys. About half the time I get half my keys there. A while back I took the van key off the main ring once the mechanic told me I could do some damage to the ignition switch because of all the weight dangling off. So the van key usually goes straight in my purse/diaper bag. Which totally works until it’s time to go somewhere and I can’t remember which bag they’re in.

(And we have two van keys and they’re both usually in one of my bags)

4. Have you ever really been lost?

Probably not. I’ve not known where I am exactly. But I usually have some idea, so it’s not a hopeless situation.

I can’t give you directions because I don’t pay attention to things like street names or exit signs, but I can pretty much get where I need to go.

Jared has Providence Rhode Island figured out like the back of his hand (complete with street names, etc…) and I still can’t tell you anything more than the main roads. He’s lived there 6 years compared to my 20+…

5. What is the last movie you saw in the theaters?

I feel like I’ve answered this question here before? Maybe? Or was it about TV shows? Either way: I don’t remember.

I know for sure we went to a movie right before Karl was born (in 2012), and it seems like we should have gone to something since then, but *shrugs shoulders*

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Now to feed some children who *insist* on getting food by 8:00 AM….

~Ruth Anne

 

Answer Me This summer

Linking with Kendra @ Catholic All Year

Answer Me This {summer #2}

Answer Me This summer

1. What’s the best thing about your dad?

His love of music, and artistic ability. The fact that he’s willing to sit there and take late night phone calls when I have a need to have a question answered RIGHTTHISVERYSECOND!!

Pretty much, I know if there is anything that I ever need, I just have to call him and he’ll be there to fix it.

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2. If you’ve got kids, what’s the best thing about THEIR dad? (If you don’t, feel free to substitute your grandfather or another father figure.)

That he can walk into a meltdown home situation and take care of it without loosing his cool. Especially when mine is gone. 🙂

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This is the best we got this year. It was approximately 1329% humidity and no one had taken a nap, so we were all a bit on the grouchy.

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3. What’s the best advice your dad ever gave you?

That my baby was a happy thing, and NOT the mistake (story of our pre-marriage pregnancy here).

He also taught me how to manage money, which {probably unintentionally} turned me into a money nazi…

4. What’s something you have in common with your dad?

This is something I’ve only come to figure out in the last few months, but we both really enjoy reading biographies and memoirs (of different types of people I’d say, but still in the same book genre)

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My dad, with my baby (eating cake before he’s one year, but I guess that’s a 4th child perk)
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5. What’s the manliest thing you know how to do?

Um…. Nothing? Like I can’t change a tire, or mow the grass.
I can hang pictures and curtain rods… does that count?
Oh, I know, I can set up cribs and toddler beds, and move furniture around. 🙂

Or, there’s always the old standby:  I can manage money till you’re sick of me

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6. Who is your favorite fictional dad?

I’ll be honest I’ve never really thought about a fiction dads. I’m usually paying attention to things from a mothers perspective… Since it’s super late for this post (Monday evening), and I’m having a hard time thinking up something right now, I’ll think on it this week and if I come up with something I’ll post real quick in next week’s answers.

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Going to squeeze in my: summerstitchingsaintaffairs6

Post as well. I haven’t made tons of progress on things since my last update two weeks ago.

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I did manage to make the inner flower and the petals…

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This is how they’ll look once I get them on. I’m contemplating making another petal (even though it’s not part of the pattern) because it just doesn’t look quite right…. but I haven’t sewed it yet so I have until I get there to make that decision.

I also didn’t get the inner ruffle done (which will go around the “open” part and is a repeat of the outer ruffle). I had been hoping that maybe Katherine would like it without that ruffle (because there were so many stitches to put in that particular sequence), but nope. She said she wanted it to “look like the picture”…

Anyways, while I was getting around to asking her if she wanted that inner ruffle I started making a snowflake (on the same white thread). So I finished that up last night and will start in on the ruffle…. soon….

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Linking with Kendra @ Catholic All Year and Erica @ Saint Affairs for the Stitching blast

Answer Me This {summer #1}

Answer Me This summer

1. Any big plans for the summer?

Road Trip!!!!!! Heading to Georgia in a little over four weeks. Spending nearly three weeks with family there. Topping off with my youngest brother-in-law’s wedding. Jared and I are both in the wedding, and so are my other sisters- and brother- in law. Between us we have five children (5 and under) who will be in care of….? I guess my mother-in-law during the actual ceremony. So that should be interesting.

High tailing it back to RI for my brother’s wedding the following weekend. Katherine and Karl are in that one {she is SO excited}.

In and around all that, I signed up to take an iconography class at our church. You guys. This will be the first thing I’ve done on my own/for myself (like legitimately) since before Karl was born. To say I’m excited would probably be an understatement!! 😀

2. What is the strangest thing you believed as a child?

For the longest time we believed that our airport was named after and was the home to the tooth fairy. (T F Green for those interested.)

Other than that I was a horribly practical no nonsense child. So very short on the weird childhood beliefs.  

3. What is your favorite amusement park ride? (can be a specific one at a specific park or just a type of ride)

I stopped liking amusement parks somewhere around age 14. Don’t really know why. I don’t like roller coasters of any style, and any other thrill ride just isn’t my thing.

Ok, ok… if I have to chose something: A ferris wheel. Even though I’ve only been on one once.

4. What’s on your summer reading list?

ummmm…..

My June list is tacked onto the end of my What I Read in May 

My July list looks something like this:
* Style, Sex, and Substance
* 10 Ways to Destroy the Imagination of a Child
* The Little Oratory
* The Three Gifts of St Therese
* Voyager (Outlander, book 3).
* Any random books that pop up on the library hold list

That actually will probably hold me through August, because I’m feeling overly ambitious. Somehow I think I will have loads of time to read while we’re away in July.

5. Have you ever fallen asleep in public?

If buses count then: Yes.
Otherwise: No.

I spent three years of college commuting 45 minutes by bus (each way). Some of those, one semester in particular were super early. So, when you’re not in the habit of waking up before, say… 9:00 AM, and you have to be downtown by 6:00 AM in order to make the bus, then…… you fall asleep on the bus.

Oh, to be able to sleep till 9:00…

Did I ever tell you guys about the time when I realized, while pregnant with Katherine, that I wouldn’t ever be able to sleep in again? No? Ok, it’s short:

I woke up one morning, well along in my pregnancy. It was about 7:30 AM. I rolled over, looked at the clock, had some choice words for the hour of day, and stopped. Suddenly I realized that I was doomed to never sleep until 9:00 ever again.

My mind kept trying to come up with solutions like: Yeah, but there will be some time, like on vacation? “Nope” my evil rational mind said.

I ate breakfast, pretty much in despair.

But… I was right. I haven’t slept until 9:00 pretty much since that day. And you know what? It’s OK. I’ve gotten used to it. Still don’t like anything before 6:00AM, but I can live with that.

{sorry for the rabbit trail}

6. What is your favorite smell?

Just after it rains // freshly cut grass // new baby

Linking with Kendra @ Catholic All Year

little bits and pieces

I suppose I could label this a “Daybook” post, but greatly modified. Because those always have a lot of headings, and take me a lot of time because I feel bound to do EVERY SINGLE ITEM…

So this week, just a few things I wanted to join in on, but didn’t want to jam everybody’s inbox/newsfeed with lots of separate posts.

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~Black and White Capture of the Week~

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Matt and Zachary. Love their hands together
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(I shared the color version of this yesterday for the weekly 365 Project)

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~Feast of Corpus Christi~

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Today turned into one of those Sunday’s where “just showing up” took all the effort. One kiddo ended up sounding so much worse with his hacking cough once we got to church. One fell off a kneeler and was totally embarrassed (and started bawling). Baby was OK as far as babies go, but he’s 7 months, so…. needing to eat, and deciding not to sit with others, and pulling off veils and such (all normal).

Anyway, I can’t remember any of the details of father’s homily, but he focused on “sacrifice” – the Sacrifice that Jesus gives to us every week on the altar. I know that my {very} small scale sacrifice of just being at Mass this morning was nothing compared to Jesus’ sacrifice for us, but it did help me to have a slightly tangible grasp on the enormity of what Jesus went through for us.

WIWS over at Fine Linen and Purple

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~Currently Crocheting and other projects~

Just one last thing on the afghan and then I won’t mention it again (until I get it hung up 😉 ) I wrote up a little bit on things I pondered about marriage while working on it ~ right here if you’d like to look.

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I did a little bit more work on the doily. I have about one-quarter of this round left then, I have to make the inner ruffle and inner flower in the center.

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Need some good listening recommendations while I work on this, so please feel free to leave suggestions (podcasts, radio shows, etc..)

I also picked up a few mending projects this week.

Mom requested a hem for two pairs of work-jeans. She said she would have been charged $12/pair if she took them in somewhere. I figure since she watches my kids pretty often and I don’t pay her, its a fair trade 🙂mending

I also ran a seam through a pair of Katherine’s jammies.

I honestly don’t know why I leave things laying around as long as I do. It literally took me less than a minute to run the seam (actual time to do the project was more like ten minutes though because I had some company who was into things he shouldn’t have been and I had to rethread the needle a few times because my sewing machine is finicky like that, and I had to get up for a few other things… such is life with kiddos)

Also on the mending pile:
~ stuffed bear that Johnny is really attached to
~ converting a bib to a wash cloth
~ a one inch hole on one of my shirts (on a seam so definitely an easy fix)
~ a button for one of Katherine’s sweaters

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If you have a stash of sewing/needle/textile projects waiting to be finished, consider joining the fun! Leave a comment here (or over at Saint Affairs) with what you’ve finished recently or are planning to soon. Or if you blog, write up a short post and add it to the link-up!

Link to the link-up in the image! (Over at SaintAffairs)

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~Reading~

I’m *only* reading:

Story of a Soul (still)
Gaudy Night – by Dorothy L Sayers

I have great plans this week to write up what I read in May and also share a few fun children’s books we’ve run across in the past few weeks. We shall see folks. We shall see.

things I learned {about marriage} while crocheting

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I recently finished up Jared’s afghan that I’d been crocheting. And everytime I do a “big” project like this (this is the second one) I can’t help but think about my marriage and how I somehow manage to learn a few little life lessons along the way.

1- Full Picture

Often you can’t see the full picture until it’s nearing completion. But, especially at the beginning. You may have glimpses, and you might know which colors you’re going to be using… you probably even have a pattern showing what the end result *should* look like, but since crochet is an imperfect craft (for me at least) there’s no way to know what the end result will truly be.

I know that in my marriage I have a much better overall picture of the whole thing now as opposed to 5 1/2 years ago when we first got married (and that’s only five years, not really a “long” time). But, I can look back and see how far we’ve come. I can see where I’ve gotten to know him better, therefore I can better see how we work together.

We’re making a picture with our marriage and our lives together, each year is another row. Each year we have a bit more of the picture complete. Each year gives us a better idea what our overall picture is going to look like.

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2 – Mistakes

There will be mistakes. I know when I crochet there are definitely missed stitches, or more commonly, I read the pattern the wrong way. But, I’ve found that one of two things can happen with mistakes.

One, they can be fixed (with a lot of extra work, yes – you may have to unravel many rows). Or,

Two, they can be lived with (which will cause there to be imperfections in the finished product, but that makes it one of a kind right?)

Either way, they have to be dealt with. Putting the whole project on the shelf because you’re pissed off that you made a mistake four rows back, doesn’t actually solve anything. You one, don’t fix the mistake or two, you don’t move on (which doesn’t help you get done any faster).

A little story to illustrate my point:

Jared usually does the dishes after dinner, which I absolutely LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!!!! He does the dishes a little differently than I do, and (at the risk of sounding ungrateful – which I’m not) occasionally he doesn’t get the backs of the plates completely grease free. So, at that point I have two options: one, rewash the dish or two, live with it. Now depending on the day I may do either one, but I’ve found that throwing the plate on the floor, or leaving it in the dish drainer or yelling at my husband doesn’t actually solve the clean plate problem at that moment.

My point is that a lot of times, we.. or maybe I.. tend to make a bigger deal out of “mistakes” than is really necessary, and in the end it doesn’t help (or it doesn’t matter).

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3 – Is a labor of love

I just spent more than two years working on an afghan. There were times I wanted to stop, and if I had been doing it for anyone but him, I probably would have. But, I made a commitment to finish it, just like I’ve made a commitment to my marriage. Yeah there’ve been bad days weeks months, to the point where there probably would have been justifiable reasons to leave, but I committed myself to sticking with this. To working on it. We’ve come a long way in the last few years. A lot of times I don’t give credit to Jared for how much he’s worked on things in his life so he can make things better for us. But I do recognize that it’s for love that we work on this.

4 – Is made up of the mundane

If my math is correct the afghan was made up of 35,870 single crochet stitches. That’s a lot of single crochet stitches. And it… is……… b.o.r.i.n.g. I mean, absolutely mind numbingly boring.

Marriage is like that. Yeah, there’s highlights. But five days out of seven, we get up, get coffee, he goes to work, I see him at lunch for 30 minutes, he comes home at 4:30 (except Friday, then he’s back at 12:00!), I finish making dinner, we eat, clean up the kitchen, bedtime for the kids, and since we’re both kinda introverted we usually just want to do our own little thing before falling into bed and repeating the next morning. (Weekends have a little more variety.) But that’s about 70% of our week that’s on a mundane eat, sleep, work schedule. Mundane. Every day.

But, it’s living in those moments, that build the marriage. Hanging out with him for a few minutes while I’m making dinner is probably my most lovely-comfort time to hang out with him. And there’s nothing glamorous about that time – he’s just home from work, which if he’s been on the job site means he’s filthy, he’s tired, I’m tired, and dinner making is a necessary evil in my opinion. Not glamours. But marriage building!

5 – It’s both of ours

I made the afghan for him, so it’s his. But I made it, so it’s also mine. But who’s is it? It equally belongs to both of us at the same time.

Sometimes I forget that our marriage is both of ours. It can’t just be mine and it can’t just be his. It can’t just be me working on things and it can’t just be his. It’s both of ours, simultaneously, and equally.

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